4TH SECRET: PERSISTENCE IS THE KEY
The process described in the 3rd secret was pretty simple, wasn’t it? The really challenging part for Mel though will be not to give up when there isn’t instantaneous success. In fact, this is where we as teachers and facilitators of learning really come into our own.

Explain to Mel that in the early stages it is very usual and very common for the person to catch themselves after they have responded in their habitual way to the stimulus, i.e. becoming frustrated. This is a marvelous happening that should be celebrated. It is the beginning of the change of behaviour. After all, the moment that Mel thinks about what has happened she has done something different and she can no longer be in the stuck state of frustration.

Encourage Mel to take as much time as she needs and affirm for her that it is perfectly normal to catch oneself after the event. Prepare her for that magical moment when she actually catches herself IN THE EVENT, in that gap between the stimulus and her chosen response. And if she has prepared for it, say by Mind Mapping some positive options, she will have toolbox of choices to trial.

Finally that truly beautiful time will come when Mel will catch herself BEFORE the stimulus, and she will have worked out how to empower herself before the learning event. Imagine her delightful anticipation of new learning experience?

To be continued